[CW: ableism/NT misinterpretation] Autistic people get run over, socially speaking, especially in new environments or with new people (and unfortunately it can be with people you know, too). I've been yelled at at least three times by medical professionals, and also by a patient because I failed to close the door within one second of… Continue reading Autistic (and Neurotypical Lack Of) Effort
Imagine that someone is colorblind, yet they have the job of identifying and detecting colors, and everyone around them thinks they are doing a great job getting all of the colors right. There's no oversight or check by someone who sees in color. No one even thinks twice about it really. Imagine those people being… Continue reading The Neurotypical Autism Diagnosis
It is hard to know what other people expect from you when growing up in general (and when you're autistic). Most expectations other people have of you are not explicit, even from a young age. That ambiguity can make you go to extremes (i.e. perfectionism) to make sure that you meet others' expectations. This is… Continue reading Literalness, Uncertainty, and Perfectionism
Essentially, by not providing that social response, people can read whatever they want into my still/unsmiling face. This explains to me why I often become the backboard of people's emotions and assumptions.
[Disclaimer: This post is targeted towards parents, as I have been seeing a lot of parents recently ask about what to do about their child's behaviors (trying to figure out what is best for them, and asking autistic people). Similar versions of this can happen as autistic adults, especially when people misinterpret us as complaining… Continue reading Anxiety Looks Like Anger
[My current personal experience on disclosing: I have luckily never had to officially disclose to anyone in my lab, as everyone is honestly very supportive and understanding of my hyperacusis in general. If I need to, I just say "sorry I'm literal, do you mind rephrasing that?" or tell them I just have a hard… Continue reading Disclosure, Jobs, Networking
I don't have a blog post this week, but I did send in a piece to an AutCollab project. The project is to have lots of autistic people write about "what constitutes the essence of autism." It seemed like a very vague question, but I felt like answering it for some reason, so I had… Continue reading AutCollab Mosaic